In the throes and aftermath of a separation, emotions run high and parents can inadvertently demonstrate emotions they are feeling toward the other parent to the children, without realizing this impact upon them. In the pain and/or anger and sometimes elation of the separated parent, the child can become the unintended victim of these intense feelings. Out of a parent’s intense feelings, the parent can say or do things that unwittingly create emotional harm for the children. We as parents never intend to hurt or harm our children, but sometimes our actions, or words can confuse and draw children into the conflict.
Children sometimes align with one parent, and sometimes do their best to remain as neutral as possible. What is critical is for parents to understand that their individual behaviour has an impact to the children, and how the children will work through the separation and divorce. Children are always watching, even when you think they are not, they are observing how their parents, who once loved each other, talk to each other and treat each other. It is hard to positively communicate with someone you are angry with, has hurt you, or you feel might interpret the wrong message. Here are some suggested tips to assist parents in communication, with each other, and with their children.
We are striving to provide tips and articles that can assist parents to be the best parents that they can be in order to minimize these experiences for their children.
Please check back periodically as we will be updating information to best provide service to families in transition.
